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I was born in 1970 and I was always freakishly clever, at least as regards language. Taught myself to read by age 4, was reading Jane Eyre, Count of Monte Cristo and Don Quixote by age 8. My math skills are terrible, science is a little better. I was never a little kid; I have something people call an old soul.

I’m at least part caucasian, don’t know my biological father for sure. I’m an American expatriate, living in Mexico, religion is largely agnostic because I just don’t believe we can know with any certainty what comes next, if anything. I think all religious writings are curious historical artifacts, but as evidence of divinity are pure bullshit. I think war about religion is even bigger bullshit. It’s like two little kis arguing over whose dad can beat whose up when said dads are never going to get their asses out of the hammock.

My first love was my first-cousin, which is probably why I have a non-squick factor for that. My family is largely from Kentucky and yes, I understand how many jokes people could make from that, but if Daniel had lived, I’d be married to him. He died when I was 19.

I have a bachelor’s degree in English Lit, minor in Humanities. Graduated with Honors and from Honors college, just three credits shy of my teaching license. I couldn’t afford to not work for my student teaching so I cut line and graduated. I promptly did nothing with that degree and ran through a sequence of jobs that paid the bills, nothing more. I’m married to a rich guy (quite by accident). He stands to run five companies here in Mexico someday. That’s his path, but it’s not mine, and I’ve been wanting to come back to the states almost since the shine wore off. For about three months it was new and exotic. Now it’s just foreign and lonely. I want to move to California and pursue teaching credentials.

I’m bi, but only in the sense that I’m attracted to the person, not the apparatus. I’ve only been attracted to a woman once in my life, but Alexis was an amazing person. I have a weakness for big, hairy guys who look mean, but are cuddly teddy bears inside. I’ve met the perfect man for me, but I doubt I’ll ever be with him, although the jury’s still out on that. 

And I read / write romances because I don’t believe in happily-ever-afters in real life, so it’s a candle against the dark.

I was born to crazy Native Americans living on a commune in Bolder Creek CA in 1970. I’ve always been top of my class and a total grade hound. I have a genius level IQ (which isn’t as high as my little brother’s, much to my annoyance). I have a “terminal” degree (meaning that I’m qualified to teach at the college level and that there is no where else to go; aka a PhD or an MFA). I’m an International Trade Consultant (meaning that I get to say to lawyers, “You neither impress nor intimate me.” a lot). I’m also a Romance Novelist (first book due out next spring). I’m straight, but I have a healthy appreciation for the other side’s POV. Girls are just so pretty. You can put me down as another “skeptical foul-mouthed pro-choice fag-lovin’ secular humanist”. Hello, I wrote my thesis on skepticism and existentialism.

And as an aside to Maili, I’m DEEPLY cynical, and that’s WHY I read and write romance.

I was born in a University town in Central Illinois in 1982 to parents with crazy PhDs in the humanities. I have a B.S. in biology emphasis on molecular genetics and evolution of pathogens (yes Candy, knowing you were reading Parasite Rex made me extremely happy!) I am now at a small school in Chicago working on a massage certification and will eventually get a Master’s in Oriental Medicine. I identify as straight, but I too am “fag-lovin’” and agnostic. I definitely consider myself a cynic when it comes to love, which I think helps me enjoy the romance novel! I’m passionate about politics and consider myself a humanist. I think that answered all the questions… (did I mention that I have the memory of a goldfish when it comes to everyday stuff? My memory banks are currently full of TCM meridians.)

Let’s see.
I’m a 33 year old single female, a little over-dependent on her fur kids for emotional fulfillment, with a master’s degree in library science which I, as a customer service writer, don’t use (largely by choice.) I’m Catholic, mostly because it’s the most pagan of the Christian sects and I like to sing in my choir. I’d be just as comfortable in a grove praying to the Moon. I guess I took my religion teachers literally, but in the wrong way: One God=all Gods are the One God. As long as you’re not worshipping Entropy, it’s six or half-dozen to me. 

I test high on intelligence scores and my friends would say I’m a pretty cold person, emotionally. But I know that a lot of my cynicism is hiding the soft, tender bits that NO ONE is allowed to poke and prod to the point of pain any more, ever, so I tend to use romance as a sort of wish fulfillment. I still hope, though, which I think keeps me sane, and the romance novels help.

I grew up in a family of voracious and curious readers and there were no forbidden books. I didn’t start reading romance until I was in my late 20’s though, because the classics were just making my depression worse (particularly the damn Victorians.) I would have to say my ‘sexual orientation’ is something I take on a case by case basis, although I really don’t easily thrill. Based on past experiences, though, I’d have to say I’m heavily biased to the men (only some androgynous guys really get me going) but there are some women out there who make me go all giggly. Alas for them!  ;-)

I think cynics are natural romance writers! They’re also natural fantasy/sci-fi readers--they want a world that will live up to their expectations (after all, they wouldn’t be cynical if they hadn’t been hurt by the world, now, would they?) and you can’t find that in fiction set in the real world.

I seem a bit older than the posters so far so I’ll leave that question alone. I consider myself black though my mother was white.  I am from Minnesota with a bachelor’s degree in history from a small liberal arts college.  I work as a mid-level peon in the finance industry but law school didn’t work out and there’s not much more out there for a history degree with an emphasis on England since the Industrial Revolution.

I used to hide all my romance novels under my dirty clothes in the closet but I am getting better at not letting people define me by what I read (comes with age, I think).

I am either an atheistic cynic or a cynical atheist but one who still checks Catholic on surveys.

Born in 1969, I live in Australia, I’m married to the kind of physicist that gets published in Nature and I have a masters in political economy from one of the leading Aussie universities.  I’ve travelled a lot and lived in the US for most of my late twenties & early 30’s.  Luckily for me, we are well off enough that I don’t have to work, so I’ll be staying home with the tin lids until they’re both off to school. 

Frankly, if people want to think I’m stupid for reading romances they can go right ahead - and plenty of them do.  OTOH, I feel equally free to mock those people for obsessing over fermented grape juice, chasing little white balls around with sticks, or owning Buffy DVDs.  I don’t need to rely on third-party assessments of my IQ to be comfortable with who I am and most of my friends feel the same way.  I do get the ‘why?!?!’ question a lot, but my basic response is that I enjoy reading romance, and why shouldn’t I spend my spare time doing something I enjoy?  After all, everyone else does.  This seems to satisfy most people.

When people take us to task for any of our lifestyle choices, be it the home we live in, the food/wine we consume, the tv we watch, or the books we read, I think they are telling us more about themselves than anything.  They are telling us that THEY are afraid of being judged by others, and they really wish we’d be concerned about it too.  Because if we don’t care about it, they they have the extra worry of being judged for being shallow or judgmental.  It’s a form of paranoia.  I wish I could help them with that, but I can’t, so I just sit back and keep reading the books I enjoy.

eggs.

stupid? HA!!
I laugh at that assumption.

I win all the time at trivial pursuit because due to my romance novel reading I can answer any Indian, Highlander, Vampire, Architect, Museum, sci fi, old movie plot question on the board!!!

I get asked all the time “How did YOU know that?” by my nerdly,college educated friends… “I read it in a romance novel thats how!”

I’m a 51 year old (and darn glad of it--the alternative sucks) white woman who’s lived in Florida most of her life.  My mom dropped dead when I was eight, which left me pre-disasterized, and my father married a certifiable loony who managed not to destroy the family despite her best efforts. And I’m one cynical bitch.  I used to be a reporter, news director, editor, owned a radio station and worked at a drug treatment center.  All of that will whap the puppy cuddling softness out of you real fast.

Nonetheless, I like a well written romance.  I’ve been married for over 30 years to the same man, and I like stories with a happy ending, partly because real live so often is about suicide bombers and dead mommies and babies in dumpsters and kids with cancer.  A little escapism helps keep you sane.

I was adopted in 1969 to a Church of Christ momma and a bible-quoting-non-church-going daddy. I lived in a community that was pretty much created as a white-flight community. When I was old enough to pay my own bills, I immediately moved to the big city of Little Rock, AR and reveled in the world of color and culture. My mom votes republican because of the taxes and daddy doesn’t vote, but again, he’s good with an opinion. He expected me to go to college to find a husband who could take care of me since he never really thought I would be capable of taking care of myself--being a girl and all. (Plus, he was resentful that my mom was the bread winner in our family--she being a girl and all.)

Instead of finding a husband, I found a BA in English. I have actually been married now for 14 years, but we’re a dual income family. (sorry pops) I work in accounting for a Financial Software company.

“Skeptical foul-mouthed pro-choice fag-lovin’ secular humanist” pretty much sums me up to a T...throw in the phrase “lapsed Catholic” and that sums up my husband. And we’re proudly raising lapsed catholic children.

I started reading Romance when I was 13 because I felt that the “age appropriate” books at that time were still too young for me. It wasn’t so much the sex as it was the sentence structure. I had been reading since I was 2 years old. YA books read like See Spot Run to me.

I read and write romance now because I can lose myself in them. Happily Ever After is a guarantee and dammit, I really, really, really like a good escape.

hahaha

when defending one’s intelligence , one should proofread before hitting submit..

“because due” ? LOL

My first post - this IS exciting isn’t it? Nah, not really, but still…

I think I’m the youngest one here at 23, I’m still a lowly uni student, political science and english lit. I’m Australian, currently studying in England (and freezing to death). I voraciously devour romance novels because they’re easy to rip through and don’t require me to study the postmodernist psycho-analytical interpretations of the use of figurative language in the sexual position of the queer male lead… or whatever my professor decides to torture me with. *grin*

Seriously though, people are always shocked when they come into my room and see romance novels - I’ve been told I have a reputation as being “a sarcastic, cynical, cold-hearted puppy-kicker” which is true, except I love puppies. I’m bi, but have a preference for males, especially the alpha-male type much to my continuing annoyance. I’ve been through a lot of religions starting when I was about 7 years old - the unfortunate result of having a protestant mom and a catholic dad. I’ve since given up on trying to fit in to any single category and so my religion is “my kind”.

Romance in real life is for chumps (in my opinion - sorry for offending any die-hard romantics!) but romance in books conveniently ignores all those obstacles to love - like money for food and scary in-laws and oral hygiene. Romance novels are fun, that’s why I read them. Escapist literature is a necessary element of surviving in a world gone totally mad.

PS Love the site! You guys crack me up.

Oh, I love this game. Must play!

I was born in Southern California in 1964 (but I was conceived in Watkins Glen, NY, thereby making me “bi”, in the coastal sense at any rate, before birth). My mother was college eddicated, went to grad school at Berkeley in Social Science, and wound up as a tax accounting specialist. My father never went to college, was a Border Patrol agent and detective until he retired at age 50. He was also an amateur race car driver and archaeologist/anthropologist, and easily one of the smartest, most educated people I have ever known. I still miss him, damn it!

But, back to me (because of course, it’s all about me). In kindergarten, I was given an IQ test and scored 164. My mother promptly wondered how in the world she was ever going to raise such a genius. As an adult, my IQ tests around 138 generally. Not sure whether that means my parents ruined me or whether the tests on five year olds aren’t all that accurate; I suspect the latter, seeing that my parents walk(ed) on water). Nearly seventeen years later, I’m still contentedly married to the same man (notice I don’t say “happily”, which would imply that constant happiness is some sort of standard for a successful relationship), and have three kids ranging in age from 9 to 4. Religiously, we are Unitarian Universalists, which means we are basically secular humanists who go to church every Sunday. I believe in God depending on what your definition of God is (which is probably not the same as mine, so you’d probably just call me an atheist).

I have a Masters Degree in Classics from the University of Chicago and was working on my PhD when life intervened and I got married instead. (You understand now why I like romance novels, perhaps?) I make my living as an instructional designer but hope to someday join Kalen and Ana in the ranks of actually published writers. (Hey, a girl can dream, can’t she? Shit, wait a minute, I’m fucking 42! I’m not a girl any more! Hang on while I go weep quietly for a few minutes.)

Okay, I’m back, having successfully mourned my lost girl-ness. I started reading romance novels when I was in my teens. (My, what a lot of claptrap those books were! I’m sure most of them would horrify me if I were to read them now.) Books my mother referred to as “bodice rippers” and “soft-core porn”. (And what’s wrong with that, I ask?) I lost my taste for romance novels in my mid-twenties and thirties, but regained it recently (right around the time I weaned my youngest; you decide whether there’s any connection there or not) and then got my taste for WRITING back as well.

Why do I like romance novels? Partly, it’s because part of me wants to believe in happily ever after, even though the reality is that love and marriage is mostly a lot of hard work. And partly, it’s because I love sex, but *especially* sex with love.

I post my opinions here under another nick but if I’m going to be personal I have to hide a little deeper for professional reasons. 

I’m about 52-- still can’t believe it-- how did that happen?  B.A. in English.  J.D. some years later.  Agnostic/atheist/Pagan, anything but the stultifying Protestant religion of my mother.  For the past 7 years I have been deliberately celibate-- most productive years of my life.  You would not believe how much energy and time I used to waste on sex.  I liked younger men and older women.  Still enjoy looking.  Hey, I’m celibate, not dead. 

I read all of the traditional stuff that is considered romances such as the Brontes, Austen, Heyer.  Then came the Sweet Savage stuff that squicked me out pretty fast-- I remember the book that did it-- a pirate story by Fern Michaels where the heroine was raped by everyone, on the pirate ship, probably even the cabinboy.  (I would probably think that over the top funny now.)

Started back reading romance in 89 quit again because there were so few authors in Romanceland that I enjoyed reading.  Started picking up romances again about 2000 but hard to find the ones I like so I don’t read many romances, at least not all the way through.  I like non-traditional couples (or triples for that matter) and a good story makes me indifferent to the sex of the people involved.  I like strong women.  I hate, hate, hate TSTL, daddy worshiping, brother supporting, my hymen is gold heroines.

The basics:

Female, white, 32, born in Pennsylvania and lived all over the midwest, currently a resident of Texas, Office Manager, non-practicing Pagan (which means that’s the way my beliefs swing, but I haven’t actively participated in a group or cast a circle on my own for a couple of years), half a degree in creative writing, learned more from RWA than I ever did from my professors, sexual orientation is constantly evolving, read my first romance at 17- “The Gift” by Julie Garwood, the least girly girl you will ever meet

I think I first started reading romance because I never thought it would happen to me.  Looking back, guys were interested, but I was so clueless I didn’t pick up on the signs.  As I got older I had a few non-starter relationships.  Those disappointments, combined with watching friends go through horrible, abusive relationships (because it’s better to be smacked now and then or humiliated in public than to not have a date on a Saturday night) made me decide that I’d rather be alone than deal with that mess.  Romance novels became my outlet for all the soft, squishy feelings that I chose to block off from the rest of the world.  I don’t read them as much as I used to, but I still pick one up every now and then.  And of course I have a shelf or two of favorites that are read over and over.

I also have a fur baby that my life revolves a little too much around.  I joke that he’s almost like having a husband or boyfriend- he steals the covers, he farts in bed, he expects me to feed and clean up after him, he gets irate if I stay out too late or am gone too long, and he can’t stand it when I talk on the phone.  Of course, there’s one big husband/boyfriend role he can’t fill, but that’s why I have B.O.B.

Fun!

Born in 1982 to creative parents in Austin, TX, I started talking at 7 months and could read by 2 1/2. My mom is an artist, my dad is in marketing (as am I). I have a genius-level IQ, breezed through private schools and then the University of Tx.

I’ve always read voraciously. My family is intellectual but conservative and Christian. Romance novels and pretty much anything concerning sex was verboten. I started smuggling romance novels home from the library in a big satchel when I was 12 or 13. The appeal was obvious, but it turns out that I like them a lot as a break from Real Literature from my Eng. degree.

Like a lot of people, a lot of the appeal is in the books as an outlet for the feelings I keep closed off from people. In a generation that’s all about ironic detachment, it’s not cool to be a hopeless romantic. I’m a secret hopeless romantic for now. I’ll be out of the closet when I get married. Romance offers the dream of finding someone smart, hot, powerful and sexy. Being smart and sarcastic and tall-ish, a male who leans toward the alpha is pretty appealing…

I’m straight (but get the appeal of the other side), white, and my own breed of intellectual, gay-friendly Christian who doesn’t attend.

I wish we could go back and edit our posts.  I was in a hurry and forgot to answer a couple of Candy’s questions:

I have a B.S. in broadcasting, minored in History and Political Science and read everything from philosophy to Details magazine.  I’ve been an active science fiction fan for over 25 years, attending Worldcon most years.  I’m a published romance writer with three historicals on sale.  I’m Jewish and fairly religious--I keep kosher, am Sabbath observant, etc.  I like to mentally undress the cantor during the Rosh Hashanna service, but it’s OK ‘cause the cantor’s my husband.

I just hit 35 this month and was raised in relative affluence on Long Island. Both my parents are “off the boaters(though in my mother’s case; literally. She was too pregnant to fly, so she and my brother took the QE2 from England to here). Dad went to technical college and only read the newspaper (but he read every single article). Mum has her BA from the University of London and is ecstatic that one of her two children loves to read.

I have a MA in English, but having no desire to teach or be in publishing, I also have a MLS, where I now am a Youth Services Librarian. I get to hang with the school age kids and the teens - who are a blast by the way.

I’m definitely not a cynic and was always reading. As for romances, well I was a shirt, boobless, girl with braces in High School, and thus had not a date in sight. I had already been reading the teen romances at that time, but began graduating up through high school. Reading was always my escape - and my savior. Unbeknownst to me for 12 years, I was a sympotmatic depressive with no meds and no therapy. Reading kept my brain from exploding.

Now, I am well medicated, happily in therapy, and married to a wonderful man 6 years this Saturday. Do I still read romances? Hell yes. They are wonderful stories and I can’t imagine anyone not enjoying them. I mean, what’s so bad about happily ever after? Plus, as an added bonus, they are a good in-btween course when reading YA fiction. Those books are depressing!!

Ok, also old fart--52.  I was reading Georgette Heyer when she was STILL ALIVE.  Guess that makes me old.  There’s muddy duddy after my name--fuddy duddy being a Ph.D.  A select few of my patients know I read romance--although one, a guy who teaches special ed threatened to quit me when I mentioned that I too read Linda Howard.  He was reading LH at the time himself.  Folks in glass houses....

Oh, as an aside--Candy you need to read Linda Howard’s Cry No More before you diss her again.  If you hate it, you can diss her all you want.  Sarah, you can’t read it until your youngest kid is at least 6 or 7.

If you want to develop healthy cynicism, try working a county ER for 8 years.  Yes, ladies, I have heard it all.  I am straight, but non-judgmental unless you keep hitting on me, because I am YOUR DAMN DOCTOR and it’s not allowed whoever you are.  Married for 28 years to a veterinarian who is miraculously still alive.  Lapsed Baptist (thank God)--way too many things were forbidden.  And I love romance and a lot of sci fi because I can go to work to watch people suffer and die.  Plus I have three teenagers still at home and I need all the escapism I can find.

I was born in Nigeria in 1981 and came to the US when my mother remarried, I consider myself african because to say african-american or black connotates a 400+ year history I simply do not have in the US.  I have a BS (natural sciences) and an MD that I earned in 6 years.  Currently a medicine resident.  I have bopped myself from New York to the southwest.  My parents are confused and depending on what day it is are strict practicing Muslims or Protestant or belive in animal magic.  Like I said, it depends.  This has given me a thoroughly cynical view of the practice of religion and I am sticking to faith.

I started reading romances because I am a voracious reader (can read 400+ pages in less than 2 hours and frequently require more books) and around the age of 9 my dad’s college books had been used up and wrung dry and I was bored and they were there in all heir sordid glory.  I think he first one was some western.  I endured many years (ongoing) of denigration of abuse for my love of reading.  My parents lumped romance in with fantasy, mystery, horror, and general fiction.  As far as my father was concerned if it wasn’t a classic (Dickens, shakespeare, aristotle, etc) then it was some kind of romance and that was for fat women and the birds! 

I came out of the romance closet about 6 years ago and discovered fun people who also liked the books.  I have now addicted a couple more residents (what can I say, I deal in book crack).  I am a hardcore cynic as described by my friends and can be an evil plotter.  I love romances for taking me somewhere else, they are fun, and right up there with my other loves (fantasay and sci-fi) for taking me away from the here and now.  A clear cut reason why I like them is not currently available to me, but when I find out, I will let you know.  I do get tired of romance when I OD, but I always come back. 

As for sexual orientation, I am straight, happily single but willing to play whenever someone falls in my lap.  I do admit to being a hopeless romantic (deep deep down, only admitted to myself on rare occasions).

Candy thanks for the opportunity to share!

Let’s see...I’m female, age 33, Caucasian (German/Ukrainian). I have a day job at an airline and also am a partner in an ebook company. Married, straight, but not narrow.

I have an Associates in Computer Information Systems, graduated with a cumulative 4.0.  I have been editing professionally since I was fifteen, when I used to proofread term papers at five bucks a pop.

I was hideously unpopular in school, and I didn’t give a rat’s ass about grades. I actually spent five years trying to be a rock star, then faced reality and eventually went to college.

As a publisher, I actually think being cynical is a benefit. I first became involved in erotica/ romance because of what was covered in a recent discussion here: why so much romance is crap. Poor plots, TSTL characters, etc. So I thought I could be a part of the solution rather than part of the problem.

I think my cynicism gives me the ability to see when something is going down that tired old road, and what to do to fix it. The drawback is, I have to find a very well-crafted romance to read for fun because I can’t silence the editor in my head, and that bitch starts screaming at every issue she spots.

Ok, I am a 31 year old woman living in Tennessee. I have been divorced for about 8 years with my last date being over 2 years ago. Right now I’m just not interested in dating especially after the last few I endured. I’m in a small town where everyone seems to marry right out of high school so when you get older all the men are either married and unavailable or divorced and bitter and take it out on you. I no longer dream about my next beautiful wedding and have just about decided to go ahead and embrace spinsterhood (I guess I can be one-I wasn’t married very long) to be done with it. My point is that you would think I would be the last person to touch romance novels, but I love the hell out of them. Like a previous poster said they are fun and I just want to good story. Actually if I did have a guy who surprised me with a candelight dinner and roses and all that I’d think “Oh my God, what on earth is this?”. I have a BA in English and spend years reading classics and now I want stuff that doesn’t require cliff notes for every other sentence. I ended up working in a public library as a cataloger and it turns out my love of romance novels has led to more responsibilty at work. My boss noticed what kind of books I read and decided to place me in charge of donated books stating that I seem to have a better grasp on current pop culture. The other woman who did it hates romance novels and would stick brand spanking new books in the book sale instead of letting me have them to place in circulation.
What else? I consider myself a Christian although I haven’t been to church in years. I have always been a bookworm devouring fairy tales and golden books when I was able to read without help. Then when I was ready for chapter books I read a lot of Beverly Cleary and Judy Blume as I got older. There are actually a lot of Children’s books I missed so part of my reading as an adult is going back to fill in the gaps. For example, I didn’t pick up a Nancy Drew book until I was well over 25. As a teenager I read a few series books for teens like Sisters and Sweet Valley High. Then the Flowers in the Attic movie came out and started up a V.C. Andrews phase that lasted for years. That led to more horror fiction that included the works of Edgar Allan Poe and Anne Rice. Then right before I turned 20 I picked up a few romance novels from the library by Lisa Kleypas, Sandra Brown and Amanda Quick just to see what about them made them so appealing to so many people. I’m so glad I did. I firmly believe most people who put them down have either never read one or just had the misfortune of picking up the wrong one to start with.There have been a few romance novels I didn’t like, but that didn’t scare me away from the entire genre.

I think I’m now the youngest to post here. I’m 21, currently working full-time in fast foods and attempting to get my fuckin’ life together (AKA get back to university; I got depressed in my second term and dropped out). Mostly Caucasian, with a bit of indigenous peoples thrown in for fun. No religion, though I believe in things like karma.

Born and raised in Canada. I’m straight, but not for lack of trying. Women just don’t do it for me, the bitches. Damned if I could tell you what my IQ is, I’ve tested for anything between 142 - 164. So I guess it’s high.

I’m a virgin, never-been-kissed, even, probably due to my diagnosed social anxiety disorder. I read books because making friends was too hard. You can only play with your one friend for so long before the two of you need time off.

I think I read romance novels because I don’t believe anything even remotely similar will ever happen to me. Not the dating thing, that’ll happen eventually, because knowing I couldn’t help the shyness has helped me overcome it (odd, that), but the whole being-swept-off-my-feet-and-onto-my-back-forever-after part.

I’d just like to say I didn’t mean on-my-back-forever-after as in dead, but as in appear-happily-together-in-later-novels-with-2.5 kids-and-dog kind of forever-after.

Heh, this survey’s going to be way biased, because the women who do fit the romance-reader stereotypes won’t frequent this site, they’ll be over at the LKH forums saying “dont listen 2 wut every1 else says! i luv u n u still write good!!!!!111”

I was born in Chicago,1976, to Mexican immigrant parents. I was the first child in my family born in the US. They were divorced by the time I was 3. My mother moved in with my grandparents, who pretty much raised me and my sister while my mother worked. I grew up in a Puerto Rican ghetto. I went to Catholic school, but am now Pagan. I have an above average IQ and was a straight A student. I’m bi, but am in a monogamous hetero marriage and we have 2 sons.

I’m also a 21 year old female Canuck, though I spent some of my younger years in the Philippines.  Currently in university, and apparently I’m supposed to pick a major very soon.  I’m fairly certain I’m straight, am not sure what my religion is and have no idea what I want to do with my life, though something with horses (not a vet!), or better yet, that would allow me to have horses, would be nice.  I would say I tend to be on the pessimistic side - expecting the worst in any situation, but only so I can be pleasantly surprised when something better happens ;-) .

All in all, with the exception of my parents’ marriage (and my grandparents’ and some of my relatives’ - am I sensing a pattern?), my life’s been pretty uneventful.  Not much residual high school trauma - not that I was in it much (took a lot of time off for riding, but still maintained good grades, which was the deal I had with my parents so I could ride).  I wasn’t hugely popular, but not an outcast either; I think my friends and I were kind of in that middle space where not much happened in terms of drama or angst or boys.

I think I read romance novels because I’d like to hope that relationships will have a HEA, even with all the proof that it does not always work out (although, two of my friends have been going out since grade 10 and are still together, which I think is quite remarkable).  I got into romance books fairly young - 12 or 13 - and didn’t realize there was a stigma attached to them until much later.  I went off them for a while (I think around 16 or 17), having burned through many that were not all that great, and slowly found my way back.  I’m more careful now about which ones I read and buy.

What kind of romance reader am I?  For years, I was guilty of the same book prejudices that this site frequently blasts.  I wouldn’t be caught dead among the pink covers of the romance section in the bookstore.  This was despite the fact that I’m a total bookworm and have always, always had a weak spot for novels with a satisfying romantic subplot.  I’m not sure where my uninformed aversion to romance novels came from, although I suspect my mother’s vocal disdain for them had a lot to do with it (incidentally, my mother currently has a lot of Nora Roberts books lying around the house for someone with no use for romance).  Anyhow, about a year ago I was writing up my PhD thesis in chemistry and feeling stressed from the combination of trying to finish up my degree and find a job at the same time.  I needed something to take my mind off work, badly.  Something possessed me to try downloading erotica from an e-publisher.  And then I did it again, and again, and again.  I’m slowly moving into more mainstream romance and non-epubs (though I’m ashamed to admit that the romance section in bookstores still intimidates me a bit). 

As for the other stuff, I’m 29 years old and currently working as a post-doctoral researcher in chemistry (yes, I did get a job, despite the distraction of the e-pubs...).  I was not raised in a religion and I think I qualify as an agnostic at the moment.  I’m straight, although looking at sexuality as falling along a continuum always made more sense to me (and I don’t think I’m all the way to one side of that continuum).  I’m from the US, with some blend of European and eastern European ancestry.  I don’t think of myself as particularly cynical, but maybe I’m a little snarky because I get a real kick out of this site.

I claim youngest, as I’m 20. Currently an evolution and ecology major in college and planning on going to grad school to do research.  I’ve been reading voraciously since I was young, and romance novels from my early teens. Luckily, my grandmothers, who loaned romance novels to my mom, had excellent taste, so part of the reason I liked romance initially was because it was better writing than the ‘age-appropriate’ stuff we read in school. Plus, it felt so subversive to be in the general fiction section (there was sex! in books!) as a young teen.  I like romance partially for the escapism but also for the characters--I love seeing relationships that work (my parents are in the process of getting divorced, after many, many years of unhappiness).  Also, I am a hopeless romantic, but I keep up appearances as a cynic.  I identify myself as Methodist, but my beliefs are not as tidy as that.  My mother was Presbyterian-turned Methodist and my father is a never-misses-mass Catholic, so while a strong belief in God was emphasized, beliefs in a specific denomination were not.  Although I hid my romances for a long time, I now proudly own up to reading them, which confounds my friends to no end.  I’m slowly trying to lure them in with well written, non-snarkable-cover romances.  I’m single, straight, female, and quite intelligent (if test scores are to be believed).

you forgot to mention how you survived the tsunami!

and, yea atheism!

Age: 18
Nationality: American (Arizona desert rat to be specific)
Gender: Female
Intelligence: I’d love to say smart, but I t
Orientation: Lesbian (I love love love stories about two people falling in love… I just wish I could find more better quality stories about two ladies falling in love.)
Race: White
Religion: agnostic with a side of lazy
Occupation: Ticket seller at a theater
Education: College Freshmen with my major as Creative Writing

Honestly, I think the romance reading is the least that people could pick on me for. I mean I own Buffy DVDs ( ;) ), I’m a random trivia whore, I geek out on everything from Star Wars to Dinosaurs, and I rock my nerd glasses. Besides, most of my friends think that its cute. They are horrible cynics so compared to them I am a ray of sunshine. I used to be cynic and then I went to college and realized that there was a void to fill.  What can I say? I like being devil’s advocate. I love genre books so it was only a matter of time before I moseied over to romance.

I read my first true Romance last year. It was a Christine Feehan. I thought it was silly but enjoyable. I started reading a few more and liked them more but I still have a soft spot for Feehan. I really got into romances just by reading the blogs and the reviews. I’ve been trying to find good romances. I love strong, badass females so it difficult to find them among the virgin widows. Also, they are great just as a writing resource. My major is creative writing and one thing that I wasn’t getting better at was writing relationships so it great to read books to study how published authors build up chemistry. I like them the most for giving me a story I can just plain enjoy and escape from the real world with. My favorites are paranormals.

Ok, I’ve got to delurk for this one, I’ve been coming here for a long time, but usually someone says what I want to say much better than I could!

I’m a 48 year old Canadian born of German immigrant business people. I had an uneventful childhood with my two sisters, got married at sixteen, stayed that way and had three children. I’m a bookkeeper but didn’t go to college, but now am not working and not looking. So that’s what I am, but who I am is an atheist, a skeptic, a liberal, a woman who loves to bake and renovate homes and spend a lot of time with my husband and children.

Why do I read romance? I’ve thought about this while reading threads on that subject and the answer is...sorry, don’t have a clue. I was an avid reader as a kid, blew my way through everything from Nancy Drew to C.S. Lewis to Homer and my favorite book in junior high was an anthology by Isaac Asimov. Then I quit reading for a few years while my children were small (I hate being interrupted while I read) until a friend recommended The Wolf and The Dove by Kathleen Woodiwiss. That was it, I was hooked. Now I read about 150 a year. I think I just love to read about interpersonal relationships and I just never get the same thrill from the other kinds of books I occasionally read.

I was born in 1989, making me the new “youngest.” I have always felt slightly out of place being a Canadian born, third-generation Chinese female who laughs loudly and is one of the farthest things from demure. I currently reside in North Carolina, which still considers itself a part of the American South.

I am merely a senior in high school, but I did the whole IQ testing thing (173). I don’t think it means anything considering there is no practical application for the ridiculous number. I take 5 AP classes, but push on doors that are clearly labelled “pull.”

I lack a clear religious label, having problems with organized religion yet not being an atheist or an agnostic since I believe in my own odd collection of gods, goddesses, natural spirits, and ancestors. I don’t belong to a church or temple.

I have no job, but I spend a significant portion of my time at the local library, either volunteering, tutoring, or otherwise patronizing. My first introduction to the idea of a romance novel was Pride and Prejudice in 6th grade. My first real romance novel was Susan Wiggs Halfway to Heaven. I’m straight, and I’ve got a serious preference for alpha male and reformed rake (I attribute this nonsense to my youth). The heroine has to be intelligent and somewhat practical, otherwise I want to drag her out of the work and shake her to death.

I read romance to get away from real life. I am a cynic that gets abused by the world in many ways my soft and squishy heart doesn’t like to bear. There are only so many philosophy and history tomes one can go through before you want something you know will end happily. And really, romance is the only genre with dialogue as witty and snappy as I like.

Age: 16 (beat that, bitches!)
Nationality: European-American (currently live near Seattle, WA)
Sexuality: Straight.  I actually think that women are better looking then men, but I’m just not sexually attracted to them.  I do tend to prefer “pretty boy” style guys, though.
Education: I’m currently at an arts school.  My eventual plan is to get a PhD in either English or History.
Favorite romance novel: Pride and Prejudice, by Jane Austen
Last romance novel read: The Deception of the Emerald Ring, by Lauren Willig
Profession: None… er… student?  At any rate, I would, one day, like to be a novelist and actor.

I was always far cleverer than the other children my age.  It wasn’t that I didn’t play well with them… it was just that I didn’t want to play with them, in the first place.  Books were, IMHO, better than living, breathing people.  And the characters in said books--!  Oh, they were so intelligent, so cultured, so witty!  You can read about (or write about) any sort of character at all.

I read everything that I could get my hands on, as a kid.  Cover to cover.  At age eight, I could be found sobbing over Nancy’s demise in Oliver Twist one minute, then trying to wade through an artical on sexual gratification in my mother’s Cosmo (wait-- that means WHAT!?).  The first romance novels that I read were some of the older ones-- does anyone here recall Elswyth Thane?  At any rate, I fell in love.  I am cynical in real life, but secretly love happy endings, in fiction.  Romance novels open a door to a world where such things as happy endings actually do exist, and I am forever grateful to them for giving me a world to believe in where it really is possibly to ride off into the sunset without being burnt to a crisp.  I have always claimed that I was born in the wrong century, but reading a Regancy allows me to be in my favorite era (Georgian England) without lack of internet or chilled beverages.

To recap, I read romance novels (novels of any sort, really) to escape from reality.  I prefer historical settings, though I have been known to read fantasy and even contemporaries-- but these people’s lives, even those supposedly taking place in the 21st century, are always more interesting (and, dare I point it out, romantic?) than those that can be found outside of a book.

I’m 26 but I will be 27 in seven days.  (Holy crap, where are my 20’s going?) I was about three fourths of the way through a BA in History when I thought “OMG, I don’t wanna teach, what am I going to do with this?” I’m married with two kids but I’ve had a couple walks on the bi-side before I settled down. My IQ usually tests in the 140s and I’m currently working as a Managerial Assistant (secretary). 

When I was in the Army, my dog tags used to read “Non-Denominational Christian” but my beliefs are a little more complicted than that.  To believe in an all powerful God, one must also believe that’s he’s larger and more than your mind can ever truly comprehend.  To me, that eliminates any possibility of one religion being right over the others.  How do we know each religion isn’t merely a different aspect of God, shown in the way necessary for certain people to come to him/her?

I think I’m pretty much an optimist who’s consistently getting smacked in the face by the fact that people aren’t as intrinsically good as I want them to be.  Including myself.  For me, Romance is an escape from failure - my own and the failures of the world.

this survey’s going to be way biased, because the women who do fit the romance-reader stereotypes won’t frequent this site, they’ll be over at the LKH forums saying “dont listen 2 wut every1 else says! i luv u n u still write good!!!!!11

Yep, I agree with her.

Oh and I forgot to say I’m currently living in Italy but will be moving back to the States in less than a month.

Dammit, I forgot to mention my religion.  This is what happens when you post at 2:00 AM.

Religion: Agnostic.  I really don’t know how this happened.  My father was a non-practising Jew.  My mother was a non-practising Christian.  They occasionally took my brother and me to church, in our early childhood.  Yet, despite my parent’s best efforts, Agnostic/Jew + Agnostic/Christian + occasional visit to church = Agnostic/Atheist.  Who knew?

Oh, and happy (early) birthday/ homecoming to US of A to you, LorelieLong!  I am insanely jealous that you get to live in Italy.

I’m 24, white and Southern.  It’s not really a nationality but sometimes feels that way.  I’m currently living in a small, Hungarian town in Romania as a Peace Corps volunteer. 

I graduated with BAs in History and Art History and have no plans to use them other than to impress people in art museums. 

I’m straight but don’t really care what anyone else does.  I’m Episcopalian, and while I don’t go to church here, I plan to start going again when I move home.

I started sneaking my mother’s books at night, staying up till 2AM and then sneaking them back to the stack.  I read Emilie Loring, Grace Livingston Hill and Elizabeth Calder(?) for a few years but always reading the classics as well. 

I read voraciously and can read two books a day.  Romance pulls me out of my daily life quickly and makes me forget I’m living in a Communist bloc and 5000 miles away from home. 

Romance is one of the few genres that allows me to fall completely into the story without much work.  When I read for pleasure, I want it to be an easy and quick slide into the story.  I appreciate a good love story and get a giggle out of the Harlequin books.

Right....well, I’m 21 (but 22 in 5 days, and I feel like my life is flashing before my eyes), from New Zealand, pakeha (white), of upper- middle class parents. I never really went to church, but I guess I espouse generally christian values - whatever that means. I don’t slut around or kill people, anyway.

I’m smart; people tend to think I’m REALLY smart and try and have conversations involving words like ‘epistemological’ and ‘ontology’ with me and expect me to know what they mean - I should, but I don’t. I just finished honours in classics, and now I’m off to teacher’s college, where I can learn to teach maths. As you do.

As for reading, I read anything and everything. I read fast, so I began reading romance novels because they were cheap and easy to find and there were lots of them. I stayed for the hilarity and the happy endings. I’ve been reading mills and boon since I was about ...13? Maybe even 12. My mother wasn’t too impressed. I stepped up to chunkier stuff around 17, but only really got into them around the end of last year. I particularly like pirates and sea captains. To a quite pathetic degree, even.

I have to admit that sometimes I think ‘my god, why am I reading this crap?’..but in general that only comes out when I’m reading particularly badly written beasties. Or when my flatmate is sitting there looking at me with disdain, I feel compelled to hide or justify my reading choice. I’m working on that one though.

I’m impressed, basically. Tempted to give myself a spurious IQ, and a more interesting sex life.

I’m a 43 year old white female. From N.Ireland, I’d regard myself as British. My degree is in Philosophy, and I’ve a post grad in teaching. I’m reasonably bright, but not more than that. I’m heterosexual, and worse than that, Presbyterian. Sunday School teacher. Married for 20 years [after falling in love at first sight] and have three children.

Came to romance through loving fairy stories, via Georgette Heyer and Mary Stewart. I’d think of romance as fairy tales for grown-ups, but I don’t think it’s any sillier, or even any more optimistic than any other genre. Or perhaps I just chose books that are optimistic in tone in whatever genre I’m reading in. Not reading a great deal of romance right now - nothing jumping off the shelves at me.

As for the other - tinker, tailor, soldier, sailor, cynic, sceptic, idealist, realist.
I’m not consistent - some things I trust in, some things I doubt.

Let’s see…

I’m 21. Even though I look like I could be 100% African, I’m actually white, Native American, Italian, West Indian, and African. I’m a girl. I get along with guys more than girls both platonically and romantically (guys match my personality more than most girls), so I’m a hetero (or “breeder” in homosexual slang). I was raised Catholic, but I’m not devout. I do believe that there is a God, despite the people born on and the events that happen on Earth that suggest otherwise. I’m in my last year of college, majoring in Writing For Film and TV (a fancy phrase for “scriptwriting") with a minor in video production.

Mostly I read classic literature and anything with humor in it, but I do dip into the occasional romance novel.

Female, French Canadian, mid-thirties, married with one kid, too cynical to believe in anything bigger than human beings. I agree with George Carlin, who says, as a species, that we’re fucked.

Reading preferences: always was reader of fantasy. Used to spit and stomp on romance because of too many failed tries at Harlequin novels. Discovered romantic genre a couple of years ago and accepted that yes, there’s some bad shit out there, but there are also gems. Was lucky enough to find this site. Gave me hope in the genre. I now read and write both fantasy and romance.

I’m also an older sister, ex-soldier, high school drop-out, dog owner (or dog owned), half couch potato/half intermittent jogger, wannabe renovator and avid reader who watches too much television, sinks too much money in clothes, likes animals more than humans, recycles, wore braces, never downloads copyrighted stuff, was a nerd without the grades, has a belly laugh that turns heads in theaters, can’t stand bullying, is mother hawk more than mother hen, votes even if candidates aren’t that great and thinks formal education is highly overrated (probably because I have little).

Next.

Reading these posts makes me feel less alone.  ;D

I started reading romance when I was about 14, on a dare, and just didn’t stop.  I’m like the majority of you; I started reading quite young and the YA books when I was that age sucked so I moved on to literature and pulp fiction.  I liked the pulp better.  My family, also a bunch of bibliophiles, thinks that I am wasting my intelligence on romance novels, but they’re not much more for me than an escape. Oh, and I HATE murder mysteries - I mean, why do I want to read about death?  He’s gonna come for me someday, I’d rather not waste my time reading about him.

Demographics?
I’m 22, female, very very white (in the sense that I can’t even tan, I just burn like a mofo), AngloCanadian, completely atheist.  My parents didn’t even bother with that stuff.  I’m hetero, but think women are much nicer to look at then men, a raging bibliophile, and love the idea of being a “skeptical foul-mouthed pro-choice fag-lovin’ secular humanist”.  I have a BA in Modern Languages (aka. the I-suck-at-communicating-in-4-languages-not-just-one BA) and I now live in Germany and teach young German students to hate English.  It’s a calling, I guess.

Ooo, maybe I can traslate “skeptical foul-mouthed pro-choice fag-lovin’ secular humanist” into German and teach it to my students?  That might excite them…

I was born a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away. The youngest of five and only girl in an Irish-Catholic family. I’m a lapsed Catholic. Everyone read in my family; books were everywhere. For the first nine years of my education, the nuns were in charge--I credit them, gratefully, with the discipline and guilt I use daily in my work.

I married the first time at 17. Why didn’t my mother lock me in my room? Ah well. I wanted babies, so I got me two wonderful sons, and got rid of the husband. It was a very good trade.

My math and science skills aren’t, basically, but along with my high school diploma I have two honorary PhDs. I love them because they required no thesis.

I like guys.

I own all seven seasons of Buffy on DVD, and am apparently married to the second tallest guy in the world as he’s a mere 6’7”.

I read and write Romances because relationships fascinate me. Because people, no matter who they are, where they come from, how screwed up they might be seek each other out for sex, for love, for companionship. Because, at the bottom of it, I believe love matters, that it can open us to possibilities and change us for the better.

Books that tell stories of people, their relationships, their emotions, their needs, virtues and flaws are a celebration of what makes us human. That speaks to me.

Wow, we really are a lot of smart bitches.

53, granddaughter of immigrants to the US from Scotland, Italy, and Poland. I was the classic smart girl in the back of the classroom - even have the severe shortsightedness for the role - with 800 and 710 on my SATs, but was an underachiever who consistently disappointed parents and teachers alike. After getting a BA in English, I married (to avoid having to actually do something with my life!), worked minimum-pay jobs and then raised three kids. I returned to college for a teaching certificate when I was in my 40s and am now teaching in a middle school. Currently, I’m working on an MA in literature, and finding it easier than I expected to keep up with the “real” grad students who all seem to be so totally beyond me in terms of knowledge and sophistication.

Oh, and I’m an atheist - went through Methodism, Episcopalianism, and Catholicism before realizing there was nothing there for me. I seem to have raised three librul atheist outrageously funny and intelligent kids in a tiny conservative town. Not sure how that happened, but there you are. I’ve been married for over 25 years, but it devolved into a platonic roommate situation over the last 15 years or so, and so I’m celibate.

I guess I’m pretty far along on the cynicism scale. I suspect I have a bruised romantic inside, since I’m on this site at all, but she’s pretty well shielded most of the time. I trust very few people - probably only my children. Certainly not my coworkers, and definitely not the rest of my fanily.

I was always a voracious reader, and sampled some romance novels back in the 70s and 80s, when rapist heroes were thick on the ground. Not my thing, and I mostly stuck to other genres until recently. I’m trying to ease back into the genre, as an alternative to the canon and litcrit I’m reading for classes.

Right now, I have a love/hate relationship with romance. Although I like happy endings, I seldom can identify with them, since I’ve never experienced the sort of passion that’s usually depicted. That leaves me feeling rather depressed, as in WTF is wrong with *me*, that I never found a relationship like that, and never will? OTOH, if I tell myself that the romance story is a kind of fantasy, then I can buy the premise, so I tend to mentally stick romance in a slot within the fantasy genre (the characters and plots in no way reflect my reality, yanno?). I do prefer to avoid “straight up” romance, usually sticking to fantasy/romance or suspense/romance, anything in which there’s a plot not focused exclusively on the love story. That tends to ease the sting of feeling left out of the loop, so to speak.

Reading the cross-genre books also keeps me turning the pages to see how the story turns out; a plain ol’ romance is going to have the HEA preordained, so I lose interest when I already know the ending, and usually can’t finish those.

I’m 26 years old.  My father is a retired school principal who teaches education part-time to college students.  My mother’s a school librarian.  I’m a librarian too, but of the corporate variety. 

I was always several reading levels ahead of most kids my age, and I read ALL the time.  By the time I was ten, I was reading the classics - Main Street, The Jungle, Wuthering Heights.  I discovered romance novels around age 12, and my parents discouraged me from reading too many of them, wanting me to read something “better.” For a while, I went back to reading Literature, but while in graduate school, I moved back to romance.  Yes, I know what’s going to happen.  But it’s like my new favorite tv show, Heroes, in that way.  I know that this season will end with defeating Sylar and saving New York.  It’s the getting there that’s fun.

gender: female
age: 23
race: caucasian
national origin: American mutt.  Irish, French, German, Scottish, Russian, and a touch of Cherokee.  I like to say I’m a war on the British waiting to happen.
religion: Generic sort of Protestant.  I have a lot of ideas I haven’t seen accepted by any denomination, but I think I’m Christian in the important ways.
occupation: substitute reference librarian
education: B.A. in Latin, working on a masters of library science
sexual orientation: straight

I read everything.  I probably read my first Romance novel in the past two years, because that was when I first saw one that looked interesting.  If I see it and it catches my eye, or if a review gives me the idea that I’d like it, I read it, and who cares about genre?  (Thanks to this site for introducing me to P.C. Cast, by the way.)

I’m 27, female, heterosexual, and emphatically, eternally single. (I suppose that might fit the cliche.) I was born and grew up in the Pacific Northwest with the whitest parents you could find, though I have since lived in the Midwest and am now in Pennsylvania. I got my bachelor’s degree with Latin honors in English in 2001, my master’s in English in 2003, and should have my PhD in nineteenth-century Brit Lit some time next year.

While I admit to my peers that I enjoy romance novels and chick lit, I always say it half-defiantly, half-shamed. But I don’t really care that much what they think.  I’ve always been a voracious reader, and will read anything if I think it’s good. I think the diversity of my reading tastes make me a more interesting person, and certainly a better scholar. I read fantasy, sci-fi, superhero comics, young adult novels, “literary” fiction, mysteries, and romance with equal delight...but it seems like the only one that people are likely to judge me for is the romance.

On the bright side, I can finally bond with my mom over books, and that’s worth a lot to me.

Reading all this is SO interesting, but I only have 25 minutes left on the computer. So I’ll write my own little bit now, and read on at a later time.

I’m a 23 year old female (not a girl, not yet a woman?) from the Netherlands, and English is my second language. Nevertheless, I read a lot of romance and chick-lit in English, even though it is hard to come by here.
I, like my sister, am intelligent above average. My knowing this without ever having been tested is obvious proof of this fact. I’m horrible with sciences and math, but am a complete language buff.
At the moment I’m working a job that pays well, but bugs me to no end, I’m suffering from mild depression, and I can’t wait until I finally get to go back to school. Which will be next September. The plan is to do a combined MA in English and American Studies, while also attaining a high school teaching license. Hopefully, 2 years into my studies, I will be allowed to spend a term in the US.

I hardly ever admit that I read romance and chick lit (I hate that term, really), because people do seem to think you must be an airhead. And following up an admission of reading romance with “but I’ve read War & Peace too!” just seems sort of sad.
My Harlequins sit in a box that’s all their own. I used to call it my goodie-box, but that seemed to have other associations for some. So now it’s known as the Box of Shame. My other romances and chick lits sit second row on my bookshelves. It’s quite sad, really.

I’d love an edit button right now, as I noticed I forgot quite a couple of things.

Well, I said I was from the Netherlands. My parents were atheist/fallen catholic, and divorced when I was 9. Both remarried, my father to a woman who would manage to estrange him from his kids, my mom to a lovely man. Both my parents, and my stepdad, hold several university degrees (MA’s), and lean to the left-side of the political spectrum. Which is how I was raised. I was a tiny disappointment, as I only started out for a BA in Tourism management and consultancy. But it did allow my to travel a lot, and figure out what I want to do with my life. Not to mention enable a depression. But whatever. I got my BA in 2005, with a 9/10 for a thesis that tied Jane Austen and the Brontë’s to British Tourism. And I’m still darn proud of that.
Oh, and I am straight, though I do think that girls are actually prettier than men.

Note to Rosemary:  Elizabeth Cadell.  Not Calder.  No wonder I feel old.  Oh, forgot, was atheist, but my dying uncle converted me to agnosticism.  My children like being agnostics, because when their Mormon, Catholic, Jewish, Muslim friends talk about religion, they can always say:  “Maybe.”

Thanks, Jackie.  I wondered why I couldn’t find her on Google.  You’re not old, I’m just an idiot.

I’m 32, white, Canadian. Never had my IQ tested. Raised in an affluent family that fell apart when my father left my mother to fend for herself with three kids. The affluence definitely vanished at that point.

I got a cheap college diploma and went straight to work in television. I’ve been there ever since and have been steadily climbing the ladder.

But my alter ego is not satisfied, as in television you WILL meet people who brag proudly about having read only one book in their lives. I read voraciously and soak up everything I can in my off hours, and no one at work is the wiser.

Straight. Have been in a relationship for nearly a decade. We have lived together for five years, but refuse to marry and are not interested in kids, much to the puzzlement of… well, everyone. We’re just not religious, and we think marriage is a state of mind, one which we are already in.

Only discovered romance three years ago, when I decided it would probably be easy to write such simplistic trash. To prove this to myself, I picked up a book at random (it was by Mary Balogh, who I had never heard of) and couldn’t put it down, have been hooked and respectful ever since. And I’m still trying to write it.

Compared to most of the bitches here I’m a vanilla reader, as I find all non-hetero or threesome stuff a turnoff, though this has nothing to do with my politics (I think everyone should read, write, enjoy, and live life however the hell they want).

I love romance because I love men and love and sex and sweeping storylines and emotion and laughter and great writing and relationships and tears and love and men and sex.

I’m 47 Australian and both a failed lesbian and a failed heterosexual. Lately I prefer to read and garden. Raised a Catholic, I have liberal arts degree (majored in history and philosophy) and a grad dip in health education. I worked for a long time in the criminal justice system and now work in local government.

I did the whole lesbian feminist thing in the 80s but kept falling in love with men.

I stared really reading romance about 4 years ago (before that I was a big literature and crime reader) when I started writing and everything I wrote was romantic. I’m not particularly romantic so this was a puzzle. I thought I’d better investigate so started reading and got hooked.

There is a lot of crap out there and a lot of the conventions of romance irritate me, but there are also wonderful stories full of great writing.

I also write erotica which stretches me beyond HEA, but I do like a good HEA.

Can I? Can I?

I am 27, I was born, raised and am living in Mexico and though I want to travel the world, I don’t want to live in another country. I am a Chemical Engineer (is there any other kind of Engineering?) because it was the only career that I though it had a practical use for math and chemistry. I listen to heavy metal while reading Romance and none of my friends share my taste in music or books. My friends don’t consider me “too smart to read that” because they don’t read and they think I like Romance because I’m a sexual maniac and though the last is true, one thing has nothing to do with the other (really). I am Christian because I chose to be, but I’m not homophobic or racist because that has nothing to do with Christ. God loves you!
I work in a Scottish company and thanks to that I’ve been to Scotland two times and haven’t been able to read a Scottish romance since then.

Oh, and since I taught myself the English language, I sound very funny and my grammar is not that good.

And Brian Molko is mine!